by Pastor Tim Burt
Prior to marrying Renee, my life was about me, myself, and I. I didn't know Jesus. I was selfish and my own primary concern. I preferred others if it was convenient and if it helped me out in the end. Learning about Jesus and discovering how unselfish He was, opened my eyes to how selfish I was. Getting married and having children seemed to amplify my selfishness even more. In the beginning, it was difficult to compromise and adapt to my wife's needs. When we brought our first baby home from the hospital and I quickly discovered that our daughter was 100 percent dependent upon us, I knew my life and selfish ways were ending. My life was no longer just going to be about what I wanted.
God’s Word taught me to consider and prefer the needs of others before myself. Gosh that was a long and painful road of learning and growing. And here's the saddest part: it never needed to be painful! It was only painful because I allowed myself to feel like a martyr. Jesus supplied my attitude adjustment in Mark 9:35 (NKJV) Jesus said, "...If anyone desires to be first, he shall be last of all and servant of all." When this truth of being a servant to those around me became a revelation in my heart, my attitude and my life changed forever!
In order to love my family and others the way Jesus did, preferring and putting others needs ahead of my own helped me mature and truly changed my character forever!
Did I ever have moments where I felt like I was doing much more serving than others serving me? Of course I did but I’m sure it wasn't true. It just felt like it. Your own flesh and your mind and emotions are selfish in their nature. They like to whine and complain! They like to have their own pity parties! That is why you have to let your spirit-man lead you, not your mind and emotions or your flesh. God speaks through His Holy Spirit directly to our spirit when we are listening. Jesus wants to lead us by His Spirit . Romans 8:14 (NLT) says, "For all who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God."
The Holy Spirit speaking to our spirit is what makes us truly whole and keeps us on the best path of life obeying God. That is what the Apostle Paul was talking about when he said in 1 Thessalonians 5:23 (NKJV) "Now may the God of peace Himself sanctify you completely; and may your whole spirit, soul, and body be preserved blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ." To be sanctified means to live by God's instruction, not the lustful carnal ways of the world. It means the Holy Spirit is going to lead your spirit and your spirit will lead your soul (your mind and emotions) and your body. Your spirit-man is the boss, not your selfish flesh or your whiny mind and emotions. When this happens, it will preserve you and make you whole and blameless!
When you are raising a family and working, moments of feeling like a martyr can easily come. But, as you learn to make your life about serving others knowing that this is how greatness is developed in you, it becomes the desired way to live. As you lean on and trust God knowing that there will be blessing in it, you will see the fruit of it in your life. You will spiritually grow and mature. You will develop in your leadership character. You will become a person that has learned a beautiful life secret that few ever really learn. God doesn't ask us to do things unless they ultimately bless us in the long run. The Apostle Paul learned these truths and taught them also. He said, "Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others." Philippians 2:4 (NKJV)
Romans 12:10 (NKJV) "Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another"
In His Love,
Pastor Tim Burt
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