by Pastor Tim Burt
As I look over the broad spectrum of everyone I know – my family, my friends, and my large church family, I see in the majority of their lives, stresses, pressures and challenging circumstances facing them. These challenges range from financial situations to relational problems to infirmities and more. It seems as though most people have some type of stressful situation creating pressure going on in their life more often than not.
Whenever we face challenges we face pressure. That pressure can make us feel like a tube of toothpaste being squeezed. When you squeeze a tube of toothpaste, toothpaste comes out. When you crack a nut with a nutcracker, the nut comes out. When pressure is put on us, what's inside of us comes out. That may be good or bad news!
Early on in my marriage with Renee, immaturity is what was in us. When pressure came, immaturity is what came out. We never knew how to respond correctly to pressure. We would only react. We both reacted in different ways but none of them were good. If you had been watching us at times like that, you would have easily thought, they sure don't love each other. That couldn't have been further from the truth. We loved each other very much. So why didn't it seem like it or why didn't we act like it? It had to do with what was in us.
When we were squeezed back then, all of the old man that had not yet been transformed by God's Word, would ooze out of us. What do I mean by old man? We can get a better idea reading in Ephesians 4:22-25. "You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old man, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new man, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness..."
Renee and I had not allowed God to do this work in us at that point in our lives. Consequently, when we were under pressure, what came out of us was a horrible – a combination of selfishness and immaturity. It wasn't that Renee and I didn't love each other. We just hadn't let Jesus be formed in us enough to get rid of the old way of communicating through our impulsive emotional responses. Did that work against us? Of course it did. What kept us together? Recognizing that WE DID love each other and that we needed God's help or the constant pressure of life would destroy us and our marriage. We wanted our marriage not only to succeed, but also to be a blessed marriage of God.
The same thing can happen when fighting breaks out between two people. When communication is going lousy and a couple is verbally beating each other up, each will pull back and withdraw. Each person wants to fight for his or her position of being right. Neither wants to apologize and work toward forgiveness. If you want to learn God's supernatural way of turning things around, then apply this wisdom from God in how you deal with each other. Instead of withdrawing and defending the position of being right, change direction and give love more liberally!
There were times when Renee and I were under pressure. We felt squeezed and snapped at each other far too much. When we did, I knew I knew I had to lay down my pride and get us out of this mess no matter whose fault it was or we would continue to head toward disaster. I began to practice the wisdom of giving liberally by giving Renee love more liberally. I'd ask Renee to forgive me whether she was right or wrong. I'd work toward the goal of reconciliation. Even if she didn't want to forgive right away, I just kept telling her I was sorry and how wonderful she was. I threw out the seeds of love liberally. Honey, you were right, I was wrong. I love you so much; all I want to do is get this right between us and love you more. I would just keep on this path. Love is hard to resist and pretty soon she'd soften. Then as today's verse said, we'd both be refreshed. No one said it's easy. Laying down your pride is terribly hard initially. But, doing things wrong is also hard work only with a lousy result. Doing things right is hard work with the potential for great results. Renee and I paid the price to work hard on personal change. We prayed to God asking him to help transform us and leave selfishness and immaturity behind. We practiced loving each other with liberal godly love. And when we were under pressure, we ramped up our liberal love to each other recognizing the devil's devices to squeeze us to get us to fight.
No matter what the pressures are in your life, you can crack and break under pressure or you can let that pressure squeeze the liberal love of God from you – something that most won't expect. The result is awesome and you end up being supernaturally transformed into the Christlike person you want to be! As I said, either way is hard work. Choose to work hard for the great result and blessing He wants for you!
John 13:34 (NIV) "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another"
In His Love,
Pastor Tim Burt
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